We have successfully made it to the month of January and we are ready to learn about materials and objects associated with the cold weather. We will introduce a snowsuit and boots for the the children to try on and wear along with mittens and hats. Although our children rarely need jackets, this is a great time for them to practice putting one on and taking it off inside our environment because they are so curious. We will present the jacket trick of laying it flat on the ground, standing above the neckline, diving out arms into the sleeves, and flipping it over our head-the independent way for a toddler to get into a jacket on their own. And then to tackle the zipper… jackets are work!
January is also a time for New Year’s resolutions and a time of reflection and looking for growth in the future. Resolutions are not meant to be easy because growth is hard work. This year, I personally decided to direct one resolution (cause I have a tendency to start with many and hope that at least one will stick) towards my children. I have never used a resolution to better myself as a parent and now is the time. No need to shoot for unrealistic goals like “BEST MOM EVER,” although I do like setting high expectations. But rather choose something small that could make a large impact on their lives. Want to join me?
Here are some suggestions:
-When your child is crying, validate and narrate instead of responding with, “You’re ok.” This honors and respects their feelings and de-escalated the situation with conversation and communication.
-Get down to their level to have a conversation. This implies that they have value and are worth the effort.
– When your child is having a meltdown, ask if they want a hug. Sometimes all they need is to feel safe and loved in order to move on.
I am going to try and take out the words “I’m sorry,” because I have realized over break that my daughter is apologizing all the time, for things that she didn’t even do. As adults we tend to say it often and as a rote response- enough that my two year old has learned it. So, I’m planning on replacing the phrase with a more positive and thankful outlook. Instead of saying, “I’m sorry I’m late,” I will replace it with, “Thank you for waiting.”
We can support each other in this journey to make big impacts with small steps.
Remember, habits form in 21 days. We can do 21 days! Here is to the new year, new habits, and stronger relationships with our children.